After a year of engagement, a Malaysian woman’s heart sank not from love gone wrong but because her fiancé’s savings are shockingly just RM500. She had pictured him quietly building up something substantial, expecting at least RM7,000 tucked away. But the reality was nothing like what she imagined. This reveal came via a viral confession on Threads, and it has everyone talking.
She and her fiancé had known each other for years, and have been engaged for a year. He is a teacher while she works in the private sector. She was ready to support him, and even wanted to top up his savings. She was under the impression that he was diligently putting aside a substantial amount for their wedding.
“I’ve known him for so long, we got engaged a year ago, and he only managed to save RM500. He’s a teacher, I was working in the private sector at the time. I honestly thought he had saved around RM7,000, but it turned out he only has RM500.”
In her post she shared that she believed she would be helping complete his nest egg, not discovering there was barely anything there. Her disappointment wasn’t just about the money, it was about trust, assumptions, and shared dreams of building a future.
“Seriously, I don’t understand. I was actually planning to help top up his savings in case he had already saved a lot. I just wanted to make our relationship halal faster. I’m really, really disappointed.”
She further shared that both of them were nearly 29-years-old at that time, and he drives a Myvi.
“I think it’s his lifestyle, and maybe he’s just not ready for marriage yet. He’s the youngest and lives with his family.”
In this case the woman’s online confession struck a chord because the gap between what she expected and what she discovered was so vast that it’s more than just numbers.
“Picking a husband is the same as choosing clothes, shoes and so on. It’s not that I want a rich man, no. Just someone equal.”
This story shines a spotlight on how finances can quietly shape or shake the foundations of modern relationships. Many netizens advised her not to settle, and more importantly not to top up his savings.
“How old is he? If he’s still in his 20s and already has commitments like a car, a house, or personal loans, then of course it’s going to be tough, just enough to get by only. Especially if from the start he didn’t live within his means… like earning only RM3k basic but buying a CRV with RM1400 monthly instalments. Where to find savings like that? Not to mention money for parents and other expenses. If he’s already in his 30s but still the same, then there are only 2 possibilities… either he’s not serious about getting married, or he’s still trapped in a lifestyle beyond his means. Usually teachers in their early 30s are already stable with a basic salary of RM5k and above, not even counting allowances.”
“Please don’t top up the savings for him. Marriage isn’t just about making the relationship halal, it’s about building a household. So you need to have a long-term vision. If he can’t even handle short-term planning, then how will he manage?”
“Don’t help top up the savings for him. It’ll be a mess later. If he’s not grateful, it’ll be too easy for him to get married as the expenses will be borne by the bride. Then it becomes easier for him to take another wife. Look at his effort. If there’s none, it’s just a waste of time. Better to find someone else. Break it off first, don’t look for another guy yet. Otherwise he’ll blame you for causing the breakup, when in reality it’s clear as day that he’s the one with financial problems.”
“Sorry to say this, but that guy isn’t serious. Back then, I didn’t dare to make promises until I had enough money. I was just doing an ordinary job, tightened my belt, and only at 34 was I ready. I let my mother choose who she wanted for me, and I just followed. By that time I already had a car and a house. After 3 months of engagement we got married. My friends were already busy with kids or even planning a second marriage, while I was just starting out. I didn’t use my parents’ money or take bank loans. Every cent I earned went to my parents. And just like that, I've been married for 18 years now.”
To which another netizens responded, “I salute you. This is what a real man looks like. It’s rare to find men like this nowadays.”